So, I only have a few minutes, I just put Baylie down for a nap and Darby is playing with a little girl at my house whose mom is sick (Jackie), but my mind is racing. Here is goes QUICK.
So, lately I have been shocked to find out about friends with money troubles whose cars and houses are so much fancier than mine. And they are asking ME for advice...holy smokes they must be up a crick. Cause I don't consider myself a saint in the spending arena and have lots to work out. BUT here are some quick ideas.
1. Get you some poor friends. Okay, so maybe not really, or rich friends who do poor things...cause its awful hard to always be the only person saying no to everything. This is something I really struggle with. I get a little bitter and cranky always being the no girl. And feeling like I'm the only person on a budget. So get you to poor-thinking friends.
I am lucky to live in a city where there are tons of free stuff to do (The Getty, the beach...okay so parking is never free in LA, but you get the point). But I bet you can be creative anywhere...or my number #1 tip would be to throw a party...a potluck party of course :)
2. Don't be afraid to be a little dorky. Cause you have a really small TV, that is not a flat screen. and your clothes could be cuter. And my couch is ugly, but there is a difference between necessity and not. We can sit on our couch, even though we might be repulsed by it at the moment. Jason and I are not in debt at the moment and it feels great. Speaking of, Jason is going to laugh hysterically when (if) he reads this cause I'm been super money complainer lately. And public schools... I had a huge issue with preschools this year and we might be in the same predicament with Darby, but the fact is, if its not free or really really cheap, I can't do it. Even if I'm the only one who doesn't.
3. Don't compromise whats important to you. Cause who needs more guilt? Every indication points to the fact that you cannot live in LA being a stay at home and that we should be done having kids, but I don't care. Now granted, I wish I would have been a nurse with that per diem thing, but oh well. Not everyone feels so strongly about this one as me or can do it (fiancially or mentally), but this is a big one for me. Fortunately I don't care about organic food, but maybe thats your thing. Or maybe its date night.
Okay, so my time is up, maybe I'll do some more later, but I'd really like to get ideas from you. So load up the comments and help me out.